I wanted to touch on the topic of self-limiting beliefs. This is something I recently (the end of last year) understood.
Self-limiting beliefs are just that, beliefs you have that limit you.
Many of us are plagued with self-limiting beliefs without even realizing it. Usually, these beliefs will be reinforced by our definitions of good and bad/evil.
We create this moral compass and we force ourselves to abide by it even if it hurts us.
We decide what we believe, at the end of the day. It doesn’t matter how your parents brought you up and your environment. You decide whether you will believe something or not. Many times, we really don’t believe in these self-limiting ideas but we feel that we have to
I will say, from personal experience, letting go of self-limiting beliefs is insanely freeing and it really catapults your journey.
A very common self-limiting belief is the idea of luck
“I have to get lucky”
“That person was lucky”
“I don’t have any luck”
This is self-limiting because now you are blaming outside forces your current position and believing that this outside force will be responsible for making it (or not making it).
But the truth is, you have control of your life and what comes of it. You have to make the actions. You have to plant the seeds to reap the benefits.
This isn’t to say that every action you make, every seed you plant will be fruitful. Some will not grow but you will figure out what you need and what you need to do in order to create a flourishing garden.
Talking about something like fame , you may think that you need to just get lucky. People may have told you that it is all about luck and that may be a factor in it but it definitely is not the only factor in it. Justin Bieber didn’t become Justin Bieber by sitting and waiting on luck. He practiced his talents every day and exposed his skills whenever he could. He worked hard to get himself in the eyes of people who could help him get what he wants.
While you are sitting there, telling yourself “I’m not lucky”, a person in your same position and working relentlessly to find, or forge, the winning path.
How do you do that today?
- You practice your skills daily
- You expose your skills whenever and wherever possible
- You educate yourself on the ins and outs of the platforms so you can better market yourself
- You figure out who you need to show yourself to in order to reach your goals
- You figure out how you will get in front of them
- You constantly adjust your game plan
- You throw out the idea that it is all about luck and replace it with the idea that it is up to you to find the right door.
What do you think?
Do you have any self-limiting beliefs?